Two reasons why young men aren't having sex

“Young men are not having sex!”

A string of tweets that drew a lot of attention from netizens brought to light a study of the Washington Post made in . He revealed that young men aren’t having as much sex as they used to.

Alexandra Hunt, a former )stripper who in 2015 lost the primary election for Democratic Party Representative in Philadelphia, wrote: “Almost one-third of men under 30 have not had sex. And a higher percentage haven’t had as much sex as they’d like—not surprising, but these kinds of stats are a sign of much deeper problems.”

Hunt points out the decline in men’s mental health and their lack of motivation to work as negative symptoms of sexual abstinence.

“Our society criminalizes sexual activity. sex and sweeps it under the rug,” she suggests, concluding that “decriminalizing sex work, funding sex education, and creating outreach programs that help young people develop healthy sex habits” are society’s next steps to remove shame and encourage healthy sexuality.

Hunt and the

Washington Post

are not the only ones to observe the increase in sexual abstinence. The phenomenon intrigued experts and sent several of them looking for answers. As a result, Generation Z as a whole (born from 30) is not uncomfortable talking about sex and is more progressive when it comes to sex. Subject; yet their activity is lower than that of previous generations, earning them generational labels such as “Puri-teen” , as the portal Slate calls them.

Amid cultural attempts to foster a “healthy” and “shame-free” societal view of sex, such as that of the congressional candidate in New York who filmed himself having sex to announce his own support for “sex positivity” ( sex positivity) and legalized “sex work”, high-profile abstinence advocates such as Drew Barrymore are far less prominent.

Mountains of articles trying to understand the phenomenon were stunned by Generation Z’s rejection of the “sex positivity” feminist movement. They tried to oppose “slut-shaming” [algo como “ato de envergonhar as vadias”] with marches in support of the legalization of prostitution, with the movement’s goal being to de-stigmatize sex as “free for all”. But it seems that young people are tired of hypersexualization and are choosing alternative paths. [As feministas brasileiras costumam usar a expressão slut shaming em inglês, mesmo. Embora a prostituição nunca tenha sido crime no Brasil, na década passada elas importaram a “Marcha das Vadias” (tradução de “Slut Walk”). Houve algumas edições pela década, mas saiu de moda. (N. t.)]

Dawn Hawkins, CEO of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, made the conversation heavier. In the organization’s fight to end sexual exploitation, she told the Washington Stand that Hunt’s solution to “decriminalize sex work” is very problematic. “There are a myriad of reasons why men under 30 have less sex, but normalizing prostitution would not lead to a positive society. about sex,” she explained. “Instead, men would feel entitled to sex, and sexual exploitation would increase. Men should not have the right to sex with anyone, and in particular with prostituted people.”

She continues: “Those who boast that the ‘ sex work’ (also known as prostitution) should be legalized or fully decriminalized cannot erase the fact that prostitution is inherently harmful. Prostitution is not a job like any other. It is impossible to put an end to their ills by means of regulations. The legislative model does not matter; it inevitably leads to physical, emotional and psychological trauma.”

While “sex positivity” feminists defended legal “sex work” as a rejection of to patriarchy, Hawkins says the data proves the opposite. “Legalizing and decriminalizing prostitution lights the green light for sex buyers – who are, for the most part, men. By removing any legal restrictions, the demand for prostituted people will rise, resulting in an increase in human trafficking to keep up the demand.”

Why men young people aren’t having sex then? A number of factors affect both dating and men’s sex lives. According to experts, the problem goes deeper than a precarious definition of “sex positivity” can encompass, and could be related to the prevalence of pornography consumption.

Many of the studies that map the sex lives of young men failed to include their “sex” online lives, which they often begin below years old, when most males have their first exposure to explicit material. As pornography use has grown, research shows that there is less interest in real relationships, which include the pursuit, the risk of rejection, and do not produce the “above normal stimuli” they are used to thanks to pornography.

The instant gratification that porn users get already satisfies their craving, and even has the convenience of appearing risk-free.

Still, studies show that the risks are many. A study by 2015 found that “pornography use is associated with erosion of the quality of young men’s sex lives,” according to Marcel Van der Watt, director of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation Research Institute. In a commentary for the Washington Stand, he unraveled the extensive research into the damage pornography does to male sexual habits.

“A study of 2015 on male sexual activities online found that pornography was linked to higher sex drive, but also lower sexual satisfaction and erectile function,” he explained. “In a separate study of 405 sexually active men and women who viewed pornography, frequency of pornography consumption was directly related to preference for sexual arousal with pornography rather than company. This preference was associated with undervalued sexual communication, and less sexual satisfaction, for both men and women.”

With pornography shaping what many men do. think about masculinity and sex, research shows that many young people do not achieve “sex positivity” and find themselves caught up in harmful addictions that harm their sex lives, those exploited by prostitution, their relationships, marriages and their health. as a whole.

The research also shows that the primary cause of men having less sex is that they delay marriage.

“We have a world that looks for love, and people are finding love in all the wrong places,” he told the Washington Stand Jennifer Bauwens, director of the Center for Family Studies at the Family Research Council. She points out that the church should pay attention to young men who substitute pornography for real relationships, because porn usage statistics are high, even among Christians.

)“[A igreja precisa se envolver em] practical strategies [….] to meet the needs of a generation that does not know how to connect with the other. They’ve replaced it with social media and pornography and all these different things that are fake attempts to connect with the world around us, but they’re never going to be satisfied because that’s not how God designed us.”


Daily Signal. Published with permission. Original in English.

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