I’ve been stuck with a riddle for years and today, January 6, 2022, I exclaimed “eureka”. The conundrum concerns the high BMI ladies who go to the nutritionist for diets that don’t work. Why do they go to the nutritionist to ask for a diet, if they know very well why their BMI is so high? And how do nutritionists make a living by going on crazy diets that no one follows?
After a lot of meditating and expanding contact with family members at Christmas time, I can finally cry out to the four winds: “eureka!”. Ladies with a high BMI (the editor will scold me if I use the G-word) want to keep their diet as it is, and they need a specialist to give them an impractical diet precisely so they don’t do it. If such ladies arrived at an office and the nutritionist told them to stop eating junk food, what excuse would they have to continue with a high BMI?
Everything would be simpler, of course, if each one said: “ this is the lifestyle I want to lead and I pay the price with my beauty and my health.” But this conviction is not formulated in their heads. They don’t want to pay with either beauty or health. They want even less to change their lifestyle. So, for peace of mind, they have to pay an authority to assure them that the lifestyle change is extremely difficult, achieved only by a few Buddhist monks in Tibet. Women with good weight have good weight because they are rich or have good genetics. Being fat and sick is normal; being healthy and having a good weight is for a handful of celebrities and lucky ones. They want to hear a voice inside their heads saying: “You can eat your snacks at midnight in peace and relax, that’s the pattern.”
“Gym so you don’t get fat”
I grew up hearing that I had to go to a gym, otherwise I would inevitably get fat. It must be a common belief in the urban environment, that if people don’t go to the gym they will get fat.
High school ends with its mandatory physical activity and then I go to the gym. gym to not get fat. There I learn that in gyms people are making meaningless movements to the sound of annoying and loud music. In the memoirs of concentration camp survivors, we learn that part of the psychological torture of the Nazis consisted of making prisoners perform meaningless menial tasks to the sound of marches. Going to the gym makes me think the Nazis are very sensible, as this is an effective way of torturing someone. I don’t know how the Nazis would psychologically torture the habitué of academia. I bet the German marches were a lot nicer than the electronic beat, which is a bad thing in itself and I would use it in basements if I wanted to torture someone with sleep deprivation.
Of course, I wasn’t. to the gym more than once and I paid to see if I gained weight or not. I also thought that it cannot be true that the lack of a gym causes, even in urban areas, the transformation of thin people into fat people. I call my grandma who has reached her sixties and I confirm that there was nothing like a gym even in her time.
I never got fat. So, since I’ve been officially a sedentary person since the 17 years, so I’ve been hearing for more than ten years that I’m “bad skinny”, sometimes that I have good genetics. “Bad skinny” is an expression that emerged when it was good to be chubby: mothers bought Biotônico Fontoura to fatten their offspring, and if the girl was still thin, it was because of badness, not lack of food. Over time, being thin became beautiful, and if the creature eats, eats, but doesn’t get fat, it’s because the evil one is bad and kills others with envy.
I was never gluttonous, so I reject it. the label of lean of bad. The good genetic hypothesis remained. In fact, most of the offspring of the grandmother in question are thin. But it is also true that the grandmother in question was always careful with her diet and made an effort to call her children who lived in other states to find out how they were eating and how much they were weighing. So maybe, who knows, the important point was food and not genetics.
Everyone should know a lady with a high BMI who, in one of his many adventures to lose weight, decides to go to a nutritionist. I was lucky enough to meet an enlightened woman who is a doctor and therefore does not believe in any nonsense. On top of that, I did (and still does) a lot of physical activity and keeps calling me a bad sedentary skinny. One fine day, he says he’s going to a nutritionist. Since everyone who knew her a little knew that her problem was eating too much candy and skipping meals, I asked her why she went to a nutritionist if she already knew what was wrong with her diet. She then assures me that she goes to one of the few sensible nutritionists she knows. An example of wisdom is not to put on a gluten-free and lactose-free diet unless the patient is celiac or allergic to lactose. Then my jaw dropped when I learned that people pay to go to a nutritionist to receive restrictive diets with no head or tails.
My jaw would drop even more to find out that the nutritionist, after passing that diet robotics that I saw on the fridge magnet, would be replaced by a “behavioral nutritionist”, that is, the nutritionist who specializes in passing diets taking into account the patient’s behavior. Then I concluded that everyone is crazy, since people pay to go to a nutritionist who does not take the patient’s behavior into account.
Then the high BMI lady concluded that some psychological problem needed to be overcome and decided to go to a psychologist. “Don’t do that!” I say to anyone who talks about going to a psychologist, “They’re crazy! If you studied on the same campus as psychology students, you would run psychologist!” But there she goes to the psychologist. Psychological explanations with roots in childhood are given for why she eats sweets. But not to say that I was right, it was pointed out to me as unequivocal proof of the psychologist’s competence that she, the patient, now has her room tidy. That’s it: turning over childhood – and paying who knows how much – made the room tidy.
I have a more plausible explanation for this: people like to feel responsible or guilty for their own situation, so they look for an authority figure who assures them that their problem is very special. Deep down, however, they suspect they are paying a charlatan. Nobody likes to feel cheated by a charlatan. So, they finally move to solve some problem and attribute it to the specialist.
Tidying the room is a ridiculously easy thing. It is within the reach of anyone who is not crippled. On the other hand, if you say it was due to a childhood trauma that the specialist fixed, you are freed from feeling like a sucker for not having your room tidied up beforehand, or for having paid a specialist to have you tidy your room. .
Evidently Bad Habits
The last time I heard that I have good genetics was this week. The family member who is getting fatter lifted my shirt to touch my belly: “Smooth! You don’t diet? Good genetics!” With little finger raised and nose in the air, I added: “No gym”. Raised finger and upturned nose, because it’s not genetic at all, and there is a difference between my behavior and hers to explain the difference in weights.
I have time to wake up, time to have lunch and time to sleep. Those who do not have a routine and sleep little end up eating more and eating poorly. And this family member still does something that would never cross my mind: eat industrialized snacks at night, after dinner. Snacks do not arise by spontaneous generation. The person buys and always has an overnight supply. There is planning and deliberation. It’s a pointless fattening routine. But there is no planning and deliberation to maintain a healthy routine.
I later found out that she was trying to lose weight and went to a nutritionist. I can’t believe she doesn’t know that eating chips at night makes you fat. Come to think of it, I highly doubt that most fat people don’t know why they are fat. Nobody can eat a lot of junk and not know why they are fat. It is surprising that a significant portion of fat people dissatisfied with their condition go to nutritionists before trying to review their own habits on their own.
Why, then, do nutritionists go on a gluten-free and lactose-free diet for those who are not celiac or lactose intolerant? Well, they give a diet that is difficult to follow and, therefore, an alibi for the patient to remain fat. If the nutritionist said elementary things that the patient could hear from the mother (such as “no snacks at night!”, “don’t eat a pot of ice cream alone ever!”), how many would not feel clumsy and keep going to the office?
Delegating Problem Solving
I believe this mindset is common in our time. Men no longer have to be disciplined. People are stuffed with food, with drugs; if work doesn’t require it, they don’t have time for anything… In a word, they lack discipline. People are not fatter today than they were in the 1950s because of a sedentary lifestyle, but because of lack of discipline.
When a person does not have a self-established discipline, they cry out for a discipline. external. It is out of the question to take the initiative to change something in one’s routine. Then ladies with a high BMI, instead of doing what is obvious to themselves, go to the authority to ask for a diet.