“I think I was raped”

A atriz Mônica Martelli
Actress Monica Martelli: “I think I was raped”| Photo: TV Globo / João Cotta

Says the headline of the news site Uol: “Mônica Martelli reveals discovery in ‘Saia Justa’: ‘I think I was raped’”. Under normal conditions, the phrase “I think I was raped” comes out of the mouth of someone who has become unconscious and does not know what has happened in the meantime. The individual who wakes up in this situation should run to the police station as quickly as possible, without taking a shower, to do toxicological and forensic tests. The toxicological exam will show if the individual was doped, the lack of bath will serve not to erase material traces and the forensic examination is carried out by a coroner in order to investigate the marks of injuries on the body.

It is also possible that the individual has been in this situation at a time in which he was still naive, and only later come to suspect what happened. In this case, most likely all evidence will have been erased, and since everyone is innocent until proven guilty, the victim will think twice before accusing in public. However, nothing prevents you from keeping an eye on the abuser on the loose and trying to find a fresh case that can be taken to the police.

As the actress Mônica Martelli does not fit in the first case, we are led to imagine that it was a revelation of a dark case kept in the sheds of memory , from those very juicy ones for dog world journalism. We would have a scandal like Joanna Maranhão, the Olympic swimmer who accused the coach of abusing the students and unleashed a kind of Me Too in sports.

But this was not the case with Monica Martelli either. She learned a new definition of rape, reasoned, and – bye! She concluded that she might have been raped. After all, she went to carnival blocks and people speak their language there. Let’s read it together, so as not to say that I’m making it up: “Mônica Martelli verified, in a chat with Splash [do Uol], the violence she suffered daily [sic!] in the streets with the help of conversations on “Saia Justa”, GNT’s program […]. The background was the campaign “Não é Não!”, which was created by a women’s collective in 2017 and which gained strength during Carnival. […] ‘This abusive way they treat women’s bodies is normal for us, to protect ourselves with a sweatshirt so the guy doesn’t stick his tongue out or so we don’t hear jokes. It was always normal. From the moment the discussion came, I said, I think I was abused. I discovered it here’, explains Martelli.”

So we are like this: if some ladies with a social conscience sit on the sofa at Globo studios and spend hours complaining about life and men, they will conclude that they were all raped, or abused.

The beginnings of the confusion between fiu-fiu with rape

I did a dramatic reading aloud of Uol’s article to my aunt. She recalled that the late matriarch of the family, my grandmother, was devastated when she realized she had run out of sung when she was on site. Therefore, using the lexicon of the ladies at Globo, I must conclude that grandma liked to be raped or abused. In fact, I even remember when this conversation came up that fiu-fiu was harassment. In 960, a Think Olga appeared with a statistic under his arm, saying that most of the women don’t like street singing, and created the campaign “Chega de fuu-fiu”, made to fight “abuse”.

I remember this just because of grandma, who was known to like to be picked on by a bricklayer. If we believed that the majority

of women do not like to be picked on by a mason, we would admit the existence of a minority that does. Granny fit into the Think Olga statistic, so one would have to conclude that some women enjoy abuse. Abuse is no longer something objective and becomes something that goes against the taste of the majority.

Furthermore, the question itself can be ambiguous. I believe that the overwhelming majority of women do not take seriously the mason who makes the call in the work; or, on the other hand, I believe that the mason’s love life is not made up of women who heard his “fiu-fiu” at the construction site, but rather by women he met while dancing close to the sound of Marília Mendonça. Women do not like the mason’s sung in itself, but rather the fact that they know that they move the work. If an institute asked in 960 the question “Do you like to spend time at the construction site and not hear a single word? -fiu?”, I bet the overwhelming majority of women would say no. The lack of sung in the works serves more to indicate that the woman is as attractive as a piece of brick – hence the grandmother’s natural desolation.

But the works are much less fussy than in the days of 960. Now, if the feminist goes through a work and hears the silence, she can call it empowerment. Here’s an achievement.

Now it’s beautiful be a victim

A few years ago, feminists argued that rape victims needed to be encouraged to overcome shame in order to speak out. And it’s true: hardly a rape victim would go around trumpeting her own rape. The cause of this shame, however, is not machismo. Despite their innocence, decent people are ashamed to go through degrading situations. Survivors of wars are not happy to say that they have rummaged through garbage to find food. This situation is degrading. Hannah Arendt used to say that Primo Levi had made it all up, because anyone who went through a concentration camp doesn’t want to talk about it. Rape is degrading. This is enough for the victims to be ashamed to go out there telling.

It’s easy to think of another important reason: pity can be a benign feeling in itself, but being looked at with pity lowers anyone’s self-esteem. There are those who hide cancer for this reason.

How is it possible that it is suddenly beautiful to come out claiming raped? Only with a considerable cultural change. This is exactly what we see in society’s sealing niche, where the celebration of victims reigns.

It is a very serious problem the lack of discernment between what is rape and what is not. On the one hand, it fosters false accusations that can end a man’s life and that needlessly overwhelm police forces and, on the other hand, it gets in the way of real rape victims, who need clarity, information and the police.

Inequality between the sexes

Finally, it should be noted that this is a prevalent problem among women . The natural basis of human morality prevented men from adhering so much to this behavior. Evolutionarily, it is a problem in the sex market for men to flaunt weakness. Women, no. They can pose as helpless maidens at will, and there will be a man who will find him handsome. You just have to be careful not to end up in jail.

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